What to do when you don’t know what to do

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You clicked on this post because some part of you feels lost or confused and doesn’t know what step to take next, yes? Perfect. You're exactly where you need to be.

Let’s start with some radical honesty... You ready? How you do anything is how you do everything. As you move throughout this transmission, I want you to pay attention to HOW you make decisions. I’ll check back with you on this at the end. 

Before we talk about solutions, we’re going to answer a few intake questions.  

1. What area of life are you seeking guidance in? Business, life, relationships? (If you said “all of the above,” just book a free consultation with me, girl) 

2. Do you have any ideas at all? Keep those in mind for later. 

3. When you start to think of taking the next step, what’s happening in your mind, body, and spirit? How are you reacting? 

4. What do you believe is preventing you from taking action? 

When you look at your reaction to taking the next step, can you see if there are any other areas in life or decisions you’ve made where you reacted the same way? How did that turn out?  

Now that we’ve done some excavating, let’s look at how we can use this information to fuel the momentum for the next step. First, how do you want to feel while making this decision? Would you like clarity, confidence, relief, stability, or excitement? Great, all of that is available for you now. Can you think of a time when you felt sure, you felt clear and ready and confident?  

Time for some more radical honesty. Are you hesitant to decide because you don’t believe in your ideas or because you don’t believe in yourself? I’ve been helping people organize their ideas for almost a decade, and I’ve found that usually a lack of confidence in a decision comes from two places: not having enough information or resources to make something happen, or having the resources but not having the confidence to execute.  

Not having what you need to get started is a very real barrier for some, and even that is not enough to keep playing small. Sometimes we must start where we are, with what we have, and grow accordingly. Your podcast doesn’t need expensive equipment to get started. You don’t need ANOTHER certification to finally launch your healing services. Start now, make it perfect later. You don’t need to get your hair done or a full face of makeup to start filming those TikToks. And you most certainly don’t need to lose 10 more lbs. before you start dating again. What you need, my dear, is my good friend confidence and her sister, accountability.  

These two work together to build up your self-esteem. You’re not confident because even you don’t believe you are who you say you are. Every time you made a commitment to get started and gave up, you destroyed trust in yourself. So now, your own nervous system doesn’t trust you. To begin rebuilding that trust, start with a small, easily attainable commitment, such as stretching in bed for 3 minutes before starting your day, and set a date. It’s important to set a date so that you can set yourself up to be a finisher. You need these micro wins to work up the confidence for a “bigger” win. Keep building up these wins, and in a very short amount of time, you’ll have regained your own trust. You can do hard things. You finish what you start. You face adversity with presence and patience. You are exactly who you think you are. Big purr. 

“But Ms. Rachel, I already believe in myself. I’m just out of ideas. I don’t know what to do.” If you’ve already tried everything you can think of, nothing is working, and you feel like you’re running out of time... It's time to dial a friend. Yep, ask for help. What if you didn’t always have to figure everything out by yourself? What if someone you know has the perfect solution, but doesn’t know you need it? ***deep breath*** When you don’t ask for help, you deny the people who love you the opportunity to show you how much they do, in fact, love and support you.  

If you feel like you have no one to call, guess what...? You do now! I created an emotional support container, so you have another set of eyes to examine issues, chew & digest, and come up with solutions. Doesn’t matter if it's business or personal, this container is built to move stuck, stagnant energy towards more fluid, satisfying energy. More clarity. More peace. More “I f-cking got this.” 

As promised, let's look at HOW you make decisions. This must be a shame-free zone, or it won’t work. If you’re too busy shaming and judging yourself as right or wrong, you’re fogging up the lens of clarity. So, for just a moment, there is no right or wrong way to do anything. There’s just what is.  

Let’s start with something simple. Do you want an apple or an orange? Examine HOW you made your decision. Did you immediately decide based on gut instinct? Do you weigh out what you were in the mood for? Did you analyze and start looking at the data? Did you panic? Ok, let’s go at it again. Would you rather smell like cheese for the rest of your life or always have dog poop on your shoes wherever you go? Examine how long it took to make that decision. Examine how you reached the conclusion that was best for you. Can you take that same process and apply it to what’s next for you? Would you like more information how what types of decision-making processes there are and how to use them? Perfect, come back for tomorrow’s blog! 

"Perhaps you're struggling to go three steps forward, because you first need to go three steps deeper," from Shaolin Master, Shi Heng Yi.